Engagements are in the air. There are lots of thoughts and ideas that go through a 22 year-old, single girls mind when every other girl in her life, most of them being younger than her, seems to be getting married. Since I am in fact a 22 year-old single girl, heck, I’ll share mine. Well I’m ok with it for the most part. The close friends of mine who have acquired a ring in the past few months and weeks are all in really good relationships and this makes me happy for them. There is nothing worse in the world than 2 people who are dumb and get married just because together their favorite color is green.
Except for the whole picture of the newly engaged girl holding up her left hand and pointing to it. That profile shot on facebook is a little old. But why do girls get all “I hate the world” when their friends get engaged? Well, im a girl and I can’t accurately answer that question. We have this whole jealousy thing that makes us want everything our friends have. A boyfriend, a ring, a good grade, a pair of jeans, a pencil. We compare everything to everything and weddings mean that your friend the bride is getting more attention than you. The most honest reason us girls want to throw up at the sight of that ring is because if you’re single, you’re single and your friend isn’t. At least that’s my reason, most of the time.
Those are just general thoughts, but how I really feel about this certain time of recent activity is pretty good. The truth is that I don’t know how to love Jesus enough right now, so I need to work on that relationship. I’m not just saying that because saying it makes me feel better about being single. I’ll never ever be able to love people the way I should without loving the one who created them more. And that goes for all human relationships. I may be approaching the “average age” of being married or engaged, but I have a ton left to learn in order to be a good girlfriend, fiancé, wife, soccer mom.
I like weddings, especially when I get to be the DJ! woot!
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Glad we could allow you the pleasure of being the DJ.
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It is the jealousy thing, a lot. Also (at least for me), it's a case of insular thinking where I just can't fathom how they can be ready at this age. I know that I could never get married at 20, no matter how great my relationship was, and the fact that other people are ready now is mind-boggling. I can't wrap my head around it. My immediate thought is, "I'm right about everything and I think people shouldn't get married this early," so I make awful wretching sounds and stick an imaginary shotgun in my mouth everytime another one gets a ring. However, I know logically that people move at different paces, so because they're my friends and I love them, I move past my state of bewilderment and be as happy for them as I know how.
That's my take on it, anyway.
my dear little katie,
while, i will third the fact that jealousy plays a HUGE part in the dilemma, i think some other things also contribute.
one is a total lack (or inability) to appreciate the state of life we are in as single girls. we are utterly discontent. we often make (and are given the impression) marriage to be the defining status of what it means to be a real woman, and a good christian woman at that.
also, i think another factor is that whether married people like to admit it or not, being married puts a big divide in a friendship. that girl, who is engaged and who will soon be married will then be in a totally different state of life that we as single women just can't be a part of, and i think it's the sense of losing that also breeds some discontent.
but mostly, i'm impatient, because i feel like i am at a good place in life and my relationship with God to be on that path and i'm not (as if my perceptions should be an indicator of anything!)
and lastly, i must throw it out there but two people sharing love for the color green is an absolutely lovely and acceptable reason to get married ;) i know it's a pre-req for me at least.
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